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This is one that trips up a lot of people – particularly if it’s the woman who’s trying to claim for herself the freedom that success can bring.
There are enough excuses for failure – not enough time, not enough money, too technical, don’t like reading, not enough energy, mother never loved me enough, teachers hated me, husband doesn’t believe in me. Pick one. Any will do.
These all mask the fear of success, of claiming your own power, of becoming as great as you ever dreamed of being.
As Marianne Williamson writes with profound insight: “Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure”
In this world, you begin it alone and you end it alone. You are the only person you can ever TRULY rely on to be there for you.
The ONLY belief that really matters is that you believe in yourself. That you believe you CAN achieve what you intend to achieve.
If you have people in your life who don’t support you – and honestly, that would be almost all of us – they simply reflect your own belief about yourself.
I was continually frustrated, but not discouraged, by my husband’s lack of interest, let alone belief, in my ambitions. But one day it struck me that he simply mirrored my own subconscious attitudes. By focusing on HIS lack of support, I could avoid looking at my own issues. In fact, he was doing me a loving spiritual service by being the scapegoat of my insecurities.
One of my all-time favourite observations is that people treat you like you treat yourself.
Start with that. How do your loved ones react to your ambitions? Do they, in fact, reflect what lies beneath your conscious awareness?
The next step then is to forgive. Yourself and your doubters. It’s just part of the metaphysical dynamics of life that you’re in the process of mastering.
This is what I’ve told my man:
“Honey, I know you don’t seem to be interested or supportive of what I’m trying to do, and that’s okay. But this is very important for me, and I’m determined to do it with you or without you. Your choice. Anytime you’re ready to look into what I’m doing, I’ll be happy to show you.”
Over to you:
How have you overcome or worked around your partner’s resistance? Your story may help someone else!
I’d love to hear from you.